It’s Saturday and I’m a Weekend Warrior.
That’s right, like many moms, I put on my suit of armor and face the enemy with a steely facade.
Oh, and dealing with the many facets of parenting, both good and bad.
There are meltdowns to contend with and groceries to buy. There are the surly crowds at the supermarket and soccer practices that beckon. We are indeed at war with the forces that make us unwitting participants in a never-ending battle that we face in trying to keep our house, families and lives under control. It’s a constant struggle and often a seemingly losing battle.
Regardless of whether you’re a soccer mom or not, you’re likely busy. Busier than those who have only themselves to worry about. For them, weekends signify sleeping in, leisurely brunches and R&R. Perhaps an hour or so doing the New York Times crossword puzzle, or catching the latest Hollywood blockbuster. Whatever it is, it likely does not have anything to do with Teddy bears, tantrums or the dreaded toilet-training.
The latter is the unfortunate reality for many of us, as we deal with parenting, in all it’s glory. We take the good with the bad.
The term “Weekend Warrior” has taken on a new meaning for those who have little ones in their charge. The analogy of war is surprisingly fitting as we stare down the dawn of the two-day respite from our daily work and replace it with…well…work. Because, after all, we’re really only trading in one type of work for another, aren’t we?
If we work outside the home, we may indeed put aside the demands of the nine-to-five on the weekends and focus on the family, which often means being responsible for chores and chauffeuring kids to various lessons, play dates and sports activities. If we are stay-at-home moms or dads, we may find it even more difficult to get things done on Saturdays and Sundays, as the addition of the other spouse, the lack of the weekday schedule and general chaos makes it difficult to focus. Either way, the battle lines have been drawn and we have crossed the threshold of war, even if it is with the dishes.
I once asked if having it all is still possible, and looking at the reality of weekends for most parents, I’d say the answer, at this point, is “no.” It’s impossible to feel satisfied that life is just the way it should be when we continue to languish in laundry hell. Yes, it’s a never-ending quest to have everything done – the laundry, the dishes, cooking and more. It’s sadly just not a realistic goal, unfortunately. At least not in my world. By most accounts, not in the worlds of millions of other moms who struggle to keep on top of all of their responsibilities, and beat themselves up when they’re not able to do so.
We need to stop the insanity of thinking that we can do it all, have it all and be all things to all people. It’s a fallacy and we’ve been sold a bill of goods.
From hereon in, we should collectively throw caution to the wind, let the laundry pile up on weekends and let the chips fall where they may. Perhaps we should *gasp* actually sit down and enjoy a few moments to ourselves, reading a book, perusing a magazine or even doing a crossword puzzle in the New York Times. Because, after all, even soldiers in the ongoing wars that they face deserve some down time. The war may continue but the battle has just begun. It actually started early Saturday morning.
Are the weekends relaxing or more stressful for you than the weekdays? Would you call yourself a “Weekend Warrior?” Why or why not? Looking forward to your comments!
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