According to a new study, “helicopter parenting” leads to depression. In other words, if you are so involved with your child that their every move is being monitored, you’re likely to put yourself in a funk. Ironically, these findings seem to indicate that the harder you try to be the best parent that you can be, the more you fail – both yourself and your child. You just can’t win. If you don’t “hover” over your child and just let them be, guess what? You’ll be called a Neglectful Parent.
Frankly, I find studies like these both tiresome and infuriating. What’s a parent to do? If you try too hard, you’ll be called a “helicopter parent” and may be prone to depression; if you don’t try hard enough, you’re going to be reported to the authorities for your inaction.
Let’s stop beating ourselves up for not being perfect parents. Personally, I’m tired of all of the studies, articles and “experts” that keep telling me why I’m failing to live up to expectations about parenting. The nuts and bolts of motherhood and fatherhood are hard enough without naysayers breathing down your neck and telling you why you’ve failed. Ignore them. Be your own cheering team and remember that those who beat you down are just jealous Seriously, is there anyone out there who really has it down to a fine science? Perfect kids? They don’t exist. Perfect parents are even more rare. Go with the flow, follow your instincts and your kids will turn out just fine.
To put things in perspective, read on. Here are some of the reasons that I’m a great parent. My kids agree
5 Reasons Why I’m a Good Mom
2) I expose my kids to a variety of cultures on a regular basis: Chinese – chicken balls, Italian – pizza (sometimes frozen), Mexican – tacos….Often these foods are takeout, but that doesn’t matter, right?
3) I am teaching my children about relationships – Watching Survivor and other reality TV shows provides them with the nuts and bolts of interpersonal relationships and struggles. There are no better examples of man’s inhumanity to man, especially at tribal council.
4) I don’t clean daily. Why bother? It’s going to be messed up as soon as I’m done and anyway, I want to spend quality time with my kids.
5) 6. I make a mean homemade macaroni and cheese. From scratch. Not from a box. And often. That keeps the rugrats happy.
Those reasons are good enough for me. How about you? What makes you a great parent? Tell me about it in the comment section below.
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