Monday Musings - Is There Any Hope For Our Entitled Kids?

by Samantha on March 25, 2013

entitlement children

There’s no question that our kids have so much more than we used to have at the same age.

These days, most of us parents are used to Generation Y and the young kids, coming up the rear with an even more pronounced sense of entitlement.

Yes, our kids are spoiled, at least in comparison to children of even one generation previously; the question is - why are our kids so spoiled and is there anything we can do about it, realistically?

Of course, we as parents do have some culpability - after all, it is under our instruction and value system that our children learned the ropes. They wanted, they got. They asked and they received. We have certainly said “no” to our kids, no doubt about it, but can we honestly say that we’ve given our kids a negative response more than we’ve said “yes?”

I didn’t think so.

In our haste to be the good parent, the nice parent, the cool parent and the best parent, we’ve become blind to the forest for the trees. A means to an end, we think, and we give our kids almost everything they ask for. But to what end? Are we really doing them a favor, or are we adding to this pervasive sense of entitlement that has permeated our collective worlds, not necessarily for the better.

Is it possible to turn back to the clock to an era of less indulgence, of less stuff and more of a focus on values? Can we once again reinstate the importance of those intangibles such as family, friendship, education and decency in a world where the Kim Kardashians, the Paris Hiltons and other generally trite characters reign supreme?

Can we return to the type of world where our basic values did not rest upon the goings-on of reality TV stars and would-be starlets?

Mom and Dad may have giveth but the question really is: will mom and dad taketh away in this new materialistic world order?

On that note, the question of today’s Monday Musings is two-fold and as follows:

Do you agree that our kids are too entitled and perhaps too spoiled? Is it possible to turn the tides and return to a society where the value structure rests not upon the antics of the latest reality TV star but on family, home, and the more simple things in life?

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avatar Doctor G April 1, 2013 at 7:53 pm

It is totally possible to build resilient kids instead of entitled ones, and this is a goal worth sharing by all parents! Thanks for your provocative question and great ideas.


Peggy Harper Lee April 17, 2013 at 8:31 pm

Yes, we can help this lost generation. We’re an army of parents-we created the problem, we can fix it! Entitlement is the polar opposite of personal responsibility, so is it any wonder our kids are more depressed, less financially successful, in poorer health, and at greater risk for addiction and other negative coping mechanisms. I love what you are doing!!


Samantha April 18, 2013 at 2:40 pm

You’ve hit the nail right on the head, Peggy! I agree - we started this situation so we have to end it. Kids do need more of a sense of responsibility and it should start at an earlier age. A difficult task for sure in this climate of immediate gratification but we can do it if we set our minds to it. Thanks for commenting!


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